Old Ducklings!
This is a post about Asian female interracial mate poachers aka China Dolls. I have learned much from Asian women in my decades of life in San Francisco. By the way, me talking about women of another race on this blog simply means I find the topic useful to the majority of my readers: Black women.
The silent and quiet China Doll routine (is a game)! Shy equals sly. Yes some not all Asian women use the CD thing to try to Mate Poach Black women's men!
What they do correctly is...
They know how to shut the hell up, period. We Black Americans take that stance as dumb submission and it is anything but. Remember I told you that the bottom is the top!?
I have seen it in motion I recognize game and myself play it very well.
It's an act folks a very very well played act.
Know why Kittens?
She who holds her tongue hears what is being said, using information for future strategy. Also men are turned on by mysterious women CD's hold interest they can be quiet and know how to hold their tongue and moods. Many of them not all.
Sharing a couple stories of how the CD mate poaching game is played against Black women and how to win! Read carefully and apply to various MP situations...
1) "Shy" CD MP employee!
For seven years I enjoyed a German businessman Bohemian Husband. One fine morning a CD called our home phone from a supply business that he frequented. She wanted to speak to my BH and admitted it was not about business the bastard was pursuing my man. She confessed to me that she got our number off a work invoice! Brazen heffa!! I had even met her and she knew the status of my relationship with BH.
I Played the Hurt Role! After tea, with a smile on my face ready for an acting role I phoned the owner of the company first with compliments then "I was so shocked surprised and hurt that your employee XXX chose to intrude on our privacy with an outrageous sexual proposition to my BH! I called my Mother and close friends who advised me to phone you. How can you help me and prevent this from happening to another family? Is she a prostitute working undercover at your place?"
Well dear readers I never heard of that clerk again! Not once did I curse or raise my voice.
2) Silence is Golden CD MP!
Over the years here at San Francisco events every so often - too many times, actually- I'd turn around and there would be an Asian woman standing directly next to the man that I obviously was there with. Some of them are bold that way. Just standing close as hell to him with an odd smile on their faces!! Realizing that men of class will politely speak to women in their vicinity!
Can't a sister enjoy an art reception without pesky mate poachers trying to intrude?!
Here is exactly what to do when you realize you've been set up to react as a jealous (ghetto) fool or played as a simp who doesn't recognize deadly feminine charms being played.
Play the Perky Girls Girl! Nicely step between him and her. Cheerily say hello but don't give your name and don't introduce her to your man if she asks simply ignore it (BW need to learn to ignore more!) then immediately compliment her purse "Oh girl (yes call her girl!!), I love this cute bag! Macys?" Be brave and touch her purse! Wink. Yes, seriously. Game recognizes game.
Without acting a fool or raising your voice you've demoted her to a nameless (unimportant) girl with cute purse! Then turn to your sweetie and say: "honey lets go get a drink/talk to so and so." That's it! However, by then he may have gotten bored with the silly girl talk and walked away! Go follow him. That is one of the easy & simple ways sans drama to deal with CD mate poachers!
Fact is yes Mate Poaching is an unfortunate reality of swirling just remember to keep your mood (calm)!
Copyright © 2013 Dee Dee Russell, Black Women With Other Brothers. All rights reserved.
This is a post about Asian female interracial mate poachers aka China Dolls. I have learned much from Asian women in my decades of life in San Francisco. By the way, me talking about women of another race on this blog simply means I find the topic useful to the majority of my readers: Black women.
The silent and quiet China Doll routine (is a game)! Shy equals sly. Yes some not all Asian women use the CD thing to try to Mate Poach Black women's men!
What they do correctly is...
They know how to shut the hell up, period. We Black Americans take that stance as dumb submission and it is anything but. Remember I told you that the bottom is the top!?
I have seen it in motion I recognize game and myself play it very well.
It's an act folks a very very well played act.
Know why Kittens?
She who holds her tongue hears what is being said, using information for future strategy. Also men are turned on by mysterious women CD's hold interest they can be quiet and know how to hold their tongue and moods. Many of them not all.
Sharing a couple stories of how the CD mate poaching game is played against Black women and how to win! Read carefully and apply to various MP situations...
1) "Shy" CD MP employee!
For seven years I enjoyed a German businessman Bohemian Husband. One fine morning a CD called our home phone from a supply business that he frequented. She wanted to speak to my BH and admitted it was not about business the bastard was pursuing my man. She confessed to me that she got our number off a work invoice! Brazen heffa!! I had even met her and she knew the status of my relationship with BH.
I Played the Hurt Role! After tea, with a smile on my face ready for an acting role I phoned the owner of the company first with compliments then "I was so shocked surprised and hurt that your employee XXX chose to intrude on our privacy with an outrageous sexual proposition to my BH! I called my Mother and close friends who advised me to phone you. How can you help me and prevent this from happening to another family? Is she a prostitute working undercover at your place?"
Well dear readers I never heard of that clerk again! Not once did I curse or raise my voice.
2) Silence is Golden CD MP!
Over the years here at San Francisco events every so often - too many times, actually- I'd turn around and there would be an Asian woman standing directly next to the man that I obviously was there with. Some of them are bold that way. Just standing close as hell to him with an odd smile on their faces!! Realizing that men of class will politely speak to women in their vicinity!
Can't a sister enjoy an art reception without pesky mate poachers trying to intrude?!
Here is exactly what to do when you realize you've been set up to react as a jealous (ghetto) fool or played as a simp who doesn't recognize deadly feminine charms being played.
Play the Perky Girls Girl! Nicely step between him and her. Cheerily say hello but don't give your name and don't introduce her to your man if she asks simply ignore it (BW need to learn to ignore more!) then immediately compliment her purse "Oh girl (yes call her girl!!), I love this cute bag! Macys?" Be brave and touch her purse! Wink. Yes, seriously. Game recognizes game.
Without acting a fool or raising your voice you've demoted her to a nameless (unimportant) girl with cute purse! Then turn to your sweetie and say: "honey lets go get a drink/talk to so and so." That's it! However, by then he may have gotten bored with the silly girl talk and walked away! Go follow him. That is one of the easy & simple ways sans drama to deal with CD mate poachers!
Fact is yes Mate Poaching is an unfortunate reality of swirling just remember to keep your mood (calm)!
Copyright © 2013 Dee Dee Russell, Black Women With Other Brothers. All rights reserved.
wow, super brazen heiffers!
ReplyDeleteYup. Replace White or Latina depending on your region of the world.
ReplyDeleteAnd this is why BW need to be wary about that "women of color" ish that non-Black women push. Asian women constantly complain, at least online, about how White men constantly fetishize them. Yet whom do you see them with 99.99% of the time? Don't tell me they aren't WORKING that CD image they KNOW good and darn well men, especially non-Asian men, have of them.
ReplyDeleteWe need to get savvy and WATCH what folks DO more and LISTEN to what folks SAY less! Mostly, folks tell you what they think you want to hear, especially if they're trying to get over on you. So a lot of non-Black women stay peddling that "sisterhood" ish to us while we swallow that ish whole. Meanwhile, they're either planning on backstabbing us or doing an end-run AROUND us.
This is NOT saying that every last non-Black woman is an enemy any more that I'm saying all BW are your allies. We all know all skinfolk ain't kinfolk. What I'm saying is use your five senses and BELIEVE what they report back to you! We need to vet EVERYONE who comes into our lives and not be so quick to give "homie"/"homegirl" passes to just anybody. Honestly, we see plenty of sistas who keep destructive folks around them or too close to them as just friends (and family though they may be difficult to totally avoid) and acquaintances. How are we to expect them to know how to vet men and only keep those around that enhance them?
Very well said Witchsistah. Yes BW give up 'sister' passes too quickly to women who are not loyal to us. BW are the biggest people pleasers on earth. I have cut out all Mate Poaching chicks and guess what not one of them is Black...
DeleteThis is a very interesting post. I can relate to this because I've had experience with Indian girls trying to poach my mate. But luckily I know what some of them are up to. The 'Perky Girls Girl' strategy always work. I think that too many people expect black women to react badly to certain situations and in a lot of cases we do react badly. So it's always worth seeing the look on their (mate poachers) faces when you react opposite to what they were expecting.
ReplyDeleteHi Maria yes they do expect us to get loud and behave badly many BW get set up and fall for it.
DeleteI study dating pages and blogs from nonBlack women, I've got them down pat especially the Asian women they are queens of 'holding their moods' aka being quiet while "we" act a fool.
Thanks for posting.
Excellent article with insightful analysis regarding female predatory behavior. Thanks for sharing.
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